10.03.2008

Questions

(Yes, this blog is still alive. And yes, I have been really lazy about updating/completing posts. Heck, who knows if I'll actually finish and post this one...)

I've come across two questions during the past week or so that have really made me think about being single:

From my happily married best friend: "Do you think you would be happy if you never got married?"

From Liz Tuccillo's How To Be Single*: "What's the scariest thing about being single?"

My answer to the first question (after a good 30 seconds of really thinking about it) was this:

"I could be."

And the second those words escaped my lips, I started to wonder if I really believed it, or if I just said it because, if I'm going to be single forever, I don't want my friends to feel sorry for me. After thinking about it, I decided that yes, it was true. Not that I wouldn't be happy to get married, but I think I could be just as happy (a different kind of happy?) if I never did. All was well in the land of Katie**.

But then I came across the second question. What, I asked myself, is the scariest part of being single? Here's my gut reaction: The scariest thing about being single is the fear that one day, I will not be OK with being single anymore.

And this, of course, would greatly affect my answer to the first question.

If anyone's still out there reading this, weigh in. Would you be happy if you never got married? What's the scariest part of being single?



*OMG you guys, this book is SO good. And I'm only 70 pages in so far. It's like a single self-help book disguised as chick lit, all wrapped up with a pretty little humorous and witty bow. Fabu.



**Well, besides me now wondering if she asked me that question because she actually thinks I'll never get married. In her mind, this is probably a good possibility, given that she probably know the most about me and my fear of commitment. And my fear of my fear of commitment... But that's neither here nor there.